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“The first responsibility of every parent is to build a financial wall around their children” – Jim Rohn.
The following article describes my sentiments exactly:
In cities and towns throughout America, there exist thousands of slave labor camps. Near these camps, which weave in and out of cities and rural communities are settlements where the slaves live. Each morning, these slaves move “herd-like” from their homes and into their assigned places of labor. Each one arrives at his or her station by 7:30 a.m. where they report to their masters for their day’s duties. Then they remain chained to certain tasks until 5:00 p.m. when they are released. These slaves have no choice on how many hours they must labor sometimes they are required to work overtime until their master tells them when they may leave.
Year after year, they are told when to take their vacation, for how long, and when they must return. They have little choice as to how much money they earn. They are allowed very little time for lunch and coffee breaks during these labor hours. They remain in their chains with great fear because the Masters can punish them with the “lay-off” whip. It is said that even some slaves that are good and faithful have felt the sting of the whip. Day by day, year by year, they toil until the master decides that it is time for them to stop working. He then releases them to the retirement camps, where they are forced to sit idle and wait for death. It’s a well-known fact that the old slaves that try to work are sometimes whipped with the “stop-your-pension” whip.
I know these slave camps really exist, for I am a free man who lives among the slaves. I am in business for myself and I answer to no one… I rise in the morning and make my schedule. I decide my own hours; I can even sleep-in late while the slaves are at work. I can vacation when, where, and for how long I please. I am free to take my coffee and lunch break when I decide, and of course I decide my own pay check, because I am not a slave. I can choose to work when and where I please and with whom I please. I am free to stay in the city for as long as I want or to move on to greener pastures if I decide to.
I have seen many slaves trade one master for another, thinking somehow their life will be different. There is a ray of hope for the slave, though. He or she can buy his or her own freedom. The cost is not high, yet it seems high to those who don’t have the courage to pay the price. What is the price? One must be willing to be one’s own master! Author—Chris Carley.
I’ve been listening to Zig Ziglar’s teaching, ‘See you at the top’ where he tells a few stories highlighting the keys to success and the attitude that brings it about. The key attitude is your willingness to do what many others will not do after the height of competition during the week. Zig says: “You don’t pay the price of success you enjoy the price of success!” To enjoy the price of success follow the link here
Video of a mother shaming her 13-year-old daughter for having a hidden Facebook account has gone viral.
Val Starks found out that her daughter had a secret Facebook account on which she said she was 19 years old and used a photo of herself in a bra as her profile image.
She confronted her daughter about the account and the adult men who had asked to be her friend, bringing up the dangers of Internet predators.
“I just told her how disappointed I was in her and there’s no reason for her to want that kind of attention,” Starks told ABC News.
The Denver mom went on to give her daughter the choice of being spanked or making a video that she would post to Facebook.
“She said she’d rather have a whoopin’, so I chose the latter,” Starks said.
In the video made as a result, which runs more than five minutes, Starks is seen loudly confronting her daughter, making her repeat her real age to the camera. Starks notes that her daughter does not have lingerie, still watches children’s shows and has a bedtime, among other assertions.
The daughter starts crying in the middle of the video, and tried to get out of going to school on Monday, the day after the video was posted, Starks said.
Starks added that she is shocked by how quickly the video has spread and how much support she has received from parents worldwide. In three days, the video has been viewed more than 10 million times.
Starks’ popularity has gone up as well, jumping from having only 45 Facebook friends to more than 5,000 requests two days later. After the surge, Facebook suspended her account temporarily and stopped her from adding any more friends.
In a second video that Starks, a cosmetology student, posted Monday to thank supporters, she said that she is a convicted felon who cannot get a job because of her record. She told ABC News that she spent nearly eight months in jail after being convicted for complicity to traffic marijuana.
She said she told her daughter, “I’m an adult who made a bad decision and I had to suffer the consequences, and I’m still suffering the consequences. And you’re a kid who made a bad decision and there are consequences to that.”
Starks said she first got the idea of posting a shaming video to Facebook when her daughter “got in a little trouble” with the social media site last year when she was “messaging too many boys.”
Facebook’s user agreement states that users must have their real names on the account and not be under 13.
While there have been thousands of messages of support for Starks, she said that she has also gotten comments from people who believe she went too far.
To her critics, Starks said, “It was coming from a place of love.”
“Anybody could have coerced her into meeting her in a park, and she would have thought it was a 13-year-old boy but it [could have been] a grown man who wants to do bodily harm — and the coroners could have been coming to my house,” Starks told ABC News. “I would rather embarrass her and done this than to go to a morgue and verify my child’s body.”
“She’s had issues with Facebook in the past, at least four times in the past,” Starks said. “She spent half of last summer on punishment after being on Facebook, and it wasn’t even half as bad.”The Denver mom told her daughter she didn’t make the film to embarrass her.
“I said, ‘I did this because I love you not because I really wanted to embarrass you,’” she said. “I wanted to make a statement and a stand for all parents that this is not going to be tolerated.”
All I can say is I support Val Starks and as a parent I have done similar when my then 15 year old son (now 20 going on 21)had a facebook account when he was meant to be older before doing so. I saw a post by a female (one of many) who had half her breasts on show and looked like a female predator (it was a head shot). Parents need to be aware of what their children are doing on and off line!
I went on his page to post his real age and warn these girls who looked like women to leave him alone as he is a boy and stated his age. Then shortly after made him discontinue his account until he was older and wiser! Is he wiser, ‘Oh, yes! Do I regret it? Oh, no!”
The bible says (and I’m sticking with the bible):
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” Proverbs 22:6(KJV). 😀
Did you know one of the reasons I hosted the Love Nurture Functions in the past was to show parents how we could leave and inheritance to our children’s children?
What I’ve realised over the years is a lot of the couples I know, know how to stay together, Praise God! However, we haven’t really mastered the leaving an inheritance part and this comes from residual income, a fact, like gravity that works whether we like it or not.
My husband and I attended a business conference last year where that question was asked of the attendees. The speaker stated an alarming fact and said Africans, specifically Nigerians are good at throwing parties and bad at investing in the future and that we generally consider Working Tax Credit and Child Benefit to be sources of residual income!
Truth is, personally since starting Love Nurture, I have been burdened by this knowledge and have searched, researched and signed up for a quite a few programs to get the information that parents are lacking. Succinctly put, residual income is money you get from other sources without much effort on your part following the initial setup. The trick is to find your passion and promote it to like minded individuals by becoming an affiliate or you can market your own product and services from one place and earn a residual.
Interested? Do you have a passion you’d like to present to the right people? Do you have a product or service to market? Could you refer others using a easy to follow process and be paid for it? Would you like to have multiple income streams?
Just a reminder today, that God gives comfort to all who will believe and receive it and the good thing is the comfort is not limited to anyone situation, it extends to all areas where you or I need it!
Funny how we can trust instructors and other seeming experts, but find it hard to trust God who is Almighty and the one who holds our lives in his hands! 😀
Here are a list of scriptures to give you comfort whatever you’re going through right now:
• 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God, 2 Corinthians 1:4, New International Version (NIV).
• 3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God, 2 Corinthian 2: 3-4, King James Version (KJV).
• 29 Then touched he their eyes, saying, According to your faith be it unto you, Matthew 9:29, King James Version (KJV)
• 13 As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you; and ye shall be comforted in Jerusalem – Isaiah 66:13, King James Version (KJV).
• 15 Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee.
16 Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually
before me” Isaiah 49:15-16, King James Version (KJV)
We go to bed every night expecting to wake up in the morning that is trust in God’s invisible power to save us. I don’t see every breath I take to know that I’m alive, so why should you want to see God first to trust him?
It’s innate in us that there is a God, so decide to trust him today.
Have a great day in the assurance that God is holding you in the palm of his hands- Psalms 19:1 -2.
In considering God’s will for your life, let’s begin with: what you pretend to be. When you know you’re doing His will, you can drop the mask. You don’t have to convince people you’re important while secretly fearing you’re not. Nothing is more boring or disconcerting than someone who ‘name-drops’ in order to make an impression. A newly-promoted lieutenant was eager to impress his underlings, so when a young private walked into his office the lieutenant pretended to be on the phone with the general. ‘Yes, General, you can count on me, Sir,’ he said, as he banged the receiver down. Turning to the private he asked what he wanted. ‘I’m just here to connect your phone, sir.’ Pretending to be what you’re not is hard work. That’s why you feel so tired after a first date, or a job interview, or when you’re around people who expect you to project a certain image. Inside you is an unpretentious person. And it’s such a relief not having to act humbler than you are, or feign that you pray more, or know more about the Bible than you do. The good news is that you never have to pretend with God; genuine brokenness pleases Him more than spiritual pretentiousness. To fulfil His will and become the person He wants you to be, you need to be honest about who you really are. The Psalmist prayed, ‘Teach me to do Your will, for You are my God; Your Spirit is good. Lead me in the land of uprightness.’ So be who you are. When you do that—God will do the rest.
‘I delight to do Your will, O my God…’
In discovering and doing God’s will for your life, you must come to terms with what you think you should be. Comparison kills spiritual growth. For example, the mother of three young children hears her pastor preach about Christians who rise at dawn every day to spend an hour of quiet time with God. The fact is, she’d love an hour of quiet time—anytime! But her kids won’t cooperate! So what she takes away from the sermon is that she doesn’t measure up as a Christian. In essence, she’s practising ‘spirituality by comparison’ and living under a cloud of guilt. It doesn’t occur to her that the love she expresses to her children counts as a spiritual activity. Or that she may be serving God more faithfully than somebody who neglects their family in order to have that hour of quiet every morning. Another example: a gregarious, spontaneous husband is married to a woman who enjoys solitude. It comes easily to her. Nevertheless, he feels like he’s a failure when it comes to prayer because he doesn’t enjoy being alone the way his wife does. He doesn’t consider that his joy and willingness in serving others counts, or that the degree to which he loves them is shaping his soul and delighting God. ‘Should’ is an important word, but when it comes to spiritual growth, God doesn’t want you to obey Him just because you ‘should’. He designed you to want His plan for your life—to get to the place where you can say, ‘I delight to do Your will, O my God.’
‘…Prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.’
In order to fulfil God’s will for your life, you’ll have to deal with what other people want you to be. Your boss wants you to be more productive. Your health club wants you to be fitter. Your credit card company wants you to be deeper in debt. It seems like everybody has an agenda for you, and, if you spend your life trying to meet their expectations, you’ll never be free. Sometimes loving people means having to disappoint them. Seeking to become the person others want you to be is a shallow way to live. Nobody can tell you exactly how to change, because only God knows. Even you can’t tell yourself how to change, because you didn’t create yourself. To love someone is to desire and work toward their becoming the best possible version of themselves. And the one person in the entire universe who’s qualified to do this is God. Unlike people, God has no hidden agenda or unmet needs that He’s hoping you can help Him with. He knows what the best version of you looks like. He delights in the very idea of it, and is already working to bring it to fruition in your life. The Bible says, ‘…In all things God works for the good of those who love Him…’ (Romans 8:28 NIV). That means God is at work every moment to help you become His best version of you. And you’ll only be truly free when you make up your mind to be happy about being the person God meant you to be—the one He’s working on every day.
‘…Rule-keeping does not naturally evolve into living by faith…’
To fulfil God’s will for your life and become the person He wants you to be, you must deal with the ‘me’ you’re afraid God wants you to be. Most people equate spiritual maturity with trying hard to follow the rules of the Bible. But as long as you think God’s aim is to produce rule-followers, spiritual growth will feel like an obligation rather than a desire of your heart. Paul writes, ‘Rule-keeping does not naturally evolve into living by faith, but only perpetuates itself in more and more rule-keeping.’ Rigid adherence to rules and regulations produces a desire-smothering, emotion-controlling, self-righteous person. The Bible says, ‘…The written law brings death, but the Spirit gives life’ (2 Corinthians 3:6 NCV). There’s a big difference between following rules and following Jesus, because you can’t follow Jesus without cultivating the right heart. Jesus didn’t say, ‘I have come that you might follow the rules.’ He said, ‘…I have come that [you] may have life, and…have it more abundantly’ (John 10:10 NKJV). Until you understand that spiritual growth is moving toward God’s best version of yourself, the question, ‘How’s your spiritual life going?’ will intimidate you. A nagging sense of guilt and deceit will prompt you to say, ‘Not too well. Not as good as it should be.’ People are apt to use external behaviours and devotional practices to gauge their spiritual health. For example, they measure by how early they get up to read and pray, how long their quiet times are, or how often they attend church. That’s not what spiritual formation is about. It’s about your relationship with Christ, not rule-keeping!
Used with permission – UCB (United Christian Broadcasters) Word For Today – http://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today.html
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Every year, millions of people set goals for themselves.
And every year, millions of people fail to reach those goals.
I’ve learnt that the main reason is people don’t do what they say they are going to do. They know what needs to be done, but they don’t make the commitment or take consistent action to reach their goals. I’ve also discovered the power and benefit of accountability and when you lack it, it’s a bad habit that will be a constant roadblock to your success, unless it is eradicated and replaced by new habits of taking consistent targeted action. 😀
Personally, because I fell into this category really by just being overwhelmed with the magnitude and the task before me and no one to really hold me accountable I failed to reach a quarter of my commitments, let alone half! This happened year after year.
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I watched Wanted Down Under Revisited following the Wintrip family’s journey to relocate to Australia where they would have a better work life balance.
From what I could gather as I had missed 15 minutes of it, was this had been something that had been an ongoing, possibly, on and off discussion that the couple had had years ago, approximately 10 years!
What made me emotional along with the fact that they had started it – the crying that is, was the family, friends and lifestyle that they had in the UK that would be greatly missed!
Well, they made the transition, not without more drama – one of their son’s announced the impending birth of their first grandchild! The question now was should they stay or should they go?
A Viable Option For Work Life Balance
What is the point I’m trying to bring out here in addition to the obvious, which is, I love travel/property shows, is obtaining the work life balance is what every good husband and wife wants. Question is, how can you get it?
Well, lessons from the Wintrip family, don’t wait for years before you do the inevitable. One thing they said which made it harder to leave was leaving their sons behind. Now, if they had left when their sons were still dependent boys, it wouldn’t be an issue.
Also, leaving the UK much earlier in their married life would not have impacted on their work life balance as it did prior to the final decision to move.
The program finished over an hour a ago, but it amazes me how much of it resonated with me (the fact that I’m able to write all this from memory) and hopefully with you.
This is what I have endeavoured to show through Love Nurture and Love Nurture Investments and what it has been all about, which is getting the work life balance right with God at the centre of course! 😀
What can you do now to improve your work life balance without uprooting yourself and family half way across the world? Well, investing in stocks, shares and property is the best way I know how as it simple and affordable if you sign up with me. This is what I have been building upon in the last few years and this year, in the first quarter infact, it’s now all coming to fruition. 😀
Although, I’m impressed with the initiative the Wintrip family took to achieve their dreams for a better lifestyle that had a good balance of work and family, but at what cost I ask? I could see that they were torn, they confirmed it with lots of tears and thought provoking questions and statements throughout the program.
You could decide to,’Up Sticks’ and leave the UK or wherever you are for greener pastures or you could signup here now and create a passive income to influence and positively affect your work life balance. Either way you’ll be taking a risk and what is life without taking risks for a better quality of existence? Or you could do nothing, in any case it’s you and your loved one’s who’ll live with the consequences. This (the last option) I might add, is a risky option also.
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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” Proverbs 4:23 (NIV). Imagine it for a minute, the way you treat your spouse, children and others flows from how your heart is, what you really think or feel.
If you think in your marriage that you’re perfect and your spouse is the problem in the marriage (although in some instances this the case), know this: “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” Jeremiah 17:9 (NLT).
The question to ask yourself, ‘Have I done a heart check today?”
Do one regularly as no one is perfect, no one can change if they lie to themselves or their spouse. Today, decide to stop lying and start changing as in the long run you will lose (Proverbs 11:21).
Change should start with you!
The bible tells us we’ll all have an appointment with death and after this the judgement – Hebrews 9:27.
Now imagine again after you have treated your spouse the way you liked without a fear or regard of God, you’re now standing before God and giving an account of your life. It doesn’t matter who you were when you lived or what ‘misguided’ impression people had of you because you knew how to put on a good show – after all only your spouse and God really know what type of spouse you are and their’s is the only opinion that should count!
Don’t presume to know a marriage couple or take sides against a spouse as you don’t know their heart or hurt, you can only point them to God’s word and provide godly counsel which is based on God’s word.
If a marriage is not nurtured it will die, don’t kill your marriage nurture it, by guarding your heart with all diligence! 😀
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If you’ve let go of your New Year’s resolutions and or lost sight of your goals, I’m here to encourage you, not to do that!
I share my experience and passion here and recognise it’s not the same for you. However, what is the same is the fact that most people need money to accomplish their goals. Although money is crucial it is not paramount. It’s simply a tool, a source of power used in enjoying the lifestyle we crave and the service of others.
So, if your goal requires money to fund it, then you may do well to listen to what I have to say, as one who’s,’Been there and done that’ so to speak. 😀
The best way to keep on track for your New Year’s goals and not be sidetracked is to simplify your life to achieve your goals. The number one cause of failing at New Year’s resolution or goal settings is to not over complicate things as being overwhelmed is one sure way to just give up.
Decide on what it is you really want, why do you want it and what disadvantage is there to you not getting it? Then form a plan of action and break it up into bits, like days, weeks and months when you can implement it. You can do it, just don’t give up (I’m routing for you!) 😀