If the bible says that, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? Why on earth would you think you’re love interest is the exception to the rule?
Many women and men get themselves into bad relationships and sometimes potentially dangerous because they ignore this warning…and yes Jeremiah 17:9, is a warning.
As I tell my girls, before you get to that place where you have fallen in love, seek God’s counsel, as Christians it’s available to all who believe. Jesus himself said that he would send the Comforter, the Spirit of truth who leads us in all truth – see John 14:26 and John 16:13. You might be amazed to find this includes who you are to marry.
People show you who they are by their actions and some are extremely skilled at hiding their bad or nasty traits until after you’re hooked or hitched. So, you should approach your relationship with this in mind.
I have heard horror stories upon horror stories of people marrying so called friends or really good looking people or marrying for financial security and either losing their lives, looks, health, money, family and friends because of this choice.
I have witnessed situations where people made the mistake of marrying the wrong person against advice and counsel of Pastors, family and friends and when it went pear shaped came running back for help.
It’s time to take stock and weigh your desires, motives and outcomes. Is the choice your about to make worth losing your life or limb? Is it worth alienating family and friends? Or can you honestly say that you can live with the consequences of your decision?
Supposing you have weighed it all and you love this person so much you’re willing to risk life, limb and family for them, are the innocent children of this union worth sacrificing on this altar of burning love, lust or plain blind passion?
Another thing you fail to realise when you rush or blindly enter into a relationship are consequences have far reaching results and some have been tragic, terrible and extensive. Are you sexual urges or desires really worth all that?
Final word to anyone contemplating a relationship or marriage without carefully weighing and reviewing the options is this, “As you lay your bed you lie on it”. Or more pointedly, “You reap what you sow” Galatians 6:7-8.
For example, imagine your beloved son or daughter after witnessing your years of abuse enters a similar relationship to repeat the pattern? Would you want this to be the legacy you left as a parent? Think twice, look to God for help and trust your God given instincts.
A word, as they say, is enough for the wise. If you need counselling do reach out to me or someone else who can help you.